How to Increase Compliance in Children and Adolescents, II by Dr. Munn, online psychotherapist for professional women of color and child and adolescent psychotherapist in Mountain View, CA

Today I want to talk about how to increase compliance in children. I did talk about this previously but I would like to go deeper on this topic. I have found in my work as a child therapist that the way to do this is by attuning to the emotional needs of the child. So let me explain. Let’s say you have an infant. When infants are hungry and need a diaper change, they cry. This is their mode of communication. This is their way of expressing to their parents that they have a need. And when that need is met appropriately they are regulated. They are calm. In the same way, children and adolescents are also like this. When children and adolescents act out it’s because they are communicating an emotional need. Then the question is, what is that emotional need? When we are able to respond to the emotional needs of our children they are much more regulated. At the point they are much more calm; they feel safe; they feel seen, validated, and heard by you as the parent. And they are much more connected to you at that point. That way in the future when you ask your child to have a seat they’re quicker to respond to you because of the connection they have with you. They know that you understand them. They know that you will meet their emotional need. They know that they are safe with you. Therefore, the emotional connection to you is significantly stronger. Anyhow, that’s it for today.

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Disclaimer: The content in this video is only intended to increase your knowledge on parenting and child development; it is not online therapy. If you’re concerned about your child’s immediate safety please call 911 and consult with a licensed clinician about any clinical symptoms you are observing in your child.

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